A 747!!

Well you are probably asking yourself, What?? The title of my blog obviously caught your attention, so step one complete. I am going to keep my best to keep you intregued.

My name is Deedra, I am 25, like most women, single on and off in my life, although i do have a boyfriend, there are certain aspects about men, not just one man, but all men, that i must whine and complain about. I have 3 great loves at the moment in my life, my girlfriends, were would a girl be without them, you cant get through a breakup without them, you know they will be there for in a rutt, no matter what that rutt may bring, then there is a girls passion, the boyfriend, who has a comfort zone that know one else can reach, you feel close, you have personal and intimate times that you share on a regular basis, you can talk and sometimes a boyfriend can meet all your needs, which in logical terms, makes them not needs anymore...that is if you can find it in yourself to allow him to evolve in your life. And last but not least there is the other boyfriend, No, not literally boyfriend...but, "boyfriend" you know the one who can be a women and a man, you know the gay sidekick, he knows all your fears as well, he knows how to put a smile on your face no matter what, the sky is the limit on how much you love this guy...but you know that is a love bond like no other, its different from all the rest, and it is defently one that you know will never be ruined by something as simple as sex, he is always brutaly honest, thats why you shop with him, he can be shallow, but you love it, sometimes you need that insight on certain people..you love him for being him and that is all that really matters.

So i just gave you the jist of my life and probably like yours too...for the most part anyways.

My first topic I think should be brought to attention is how do some guys handle emotional baggage in a women??

Not saying that I am one of those emotional women, but i do beleive that i have an emotional past when it comes to relationships, if you are reading this and you know exactly who i am, you know that about me.

With the divorce rate now up to 50%, its no wonder a lot of women have this baggage, or as i like to call it a "womens cargo" , it may be a carry on, or can fill the luggage rack of a 747, it never seems to scare men away. i wonder if some men perfer dating women with a clean dating slate??

I find that men love to feel needed and valued, a women with a "cargo package" tend to bring out their protetective nature, all because they have endured hardships.

Believe me it can be scary to expose any kind of hardship to a new man in your life. a person should be honest and unapologetic about your past hardships. You should tell him off the bat about important things like divorce, but spare the gorey details. These days it seems as if it is the norm to have that baggage on you.....live, learn.....have fun.

I am going to end this wonderful evening with one of my fav quotes from my visual bible...thats right you guessed it, sex and the city:

"People go to casinos for the same reason they go on blind dates to hit the jackpot, but you usually end up broke and drinking at the bar alone." -Carrie

night gals and guys....